Here’s 5 reasons why you should “ schedule time” with your partner...
Life is super busy and hectic (which of course is a privilege!) but you are likely not really doing anything that you aren’t scheduling. What message does it send about our relationship when we don’t include it on the list of priorities? Default time together when you’re burnt to a crisp at the end of the day is not enough to keep a relationship vibrant and thriving. Regularly putting time together on your calendar ensures it will happen!
Scheduling time together rather than just scheduling sex allows for tons of possibility. It de-pressurizes expectations and creates an environment of acceptance and flexibility. When you just plan to connect, your body can look forward to something you know you’ll like, and that in and of itself may open you up to feeling willing and available for all sorts of physical intimacy.
Getting any regularity of schedule can help create a ritual. Rituals are so important for relationships because they are special moments when everything else stops and just you and your partner (s) matter.
It creates positive anticipation when we look forward to something we know is coming. Research shows that the anticipation of something good feels just as delicious in the body and brain as the thing itself. So when we feel excited about the time we will get together, we can be in those feel-good feelings for longer.
When you have regularly scheduled time together, you can stop tracking the days in between intimacy and feeling anxious about your connection. You can trust and rely on it being a regular part of your lives and relationship.